How To Clean Your Collars

I think the easiest collar to clean is the steel eternity collar, also called a Turian or ring on steel. This collar is cleaned every time one showers or bathes. Twice a year, though, and after major skin infections or illnesses, it is smart to clean the hinge and the screw. The best way to do this is with rubbing alcohol, Q-tips, tooth picks, and hot water. Just use the Q-tips and tooth picks in the little crevices. If the collar doesn't swing open easily, use a bit of sewing machine oil in the hinge. Be sure to dry it completely and buff gently with a towel before putting it back on.
Any collars made of PVC or vinyl are easy as well. A few squirts of all purpose cleaner and a soft cloth and the collars are good to go. Any hardware can be buffed with a soft towel.
Leather collar cleaning, like leather whips, depends on the hide of the leather. Usually, a leather conditioner and leather cleaner works best. Just be sure to test it out on a small area first to be sure the cleaner doesn't wash away the staining of the leather. If needed, a leather sealer can be applied. Leather cleaner, sealer, and conditioner are all available at Tandy Leather online.
These same cleaning tips can be used to clean cuffs, bondage belts, gags, and other restraints as well.

New Leathers...

Yesterday was a tough day for me. Master took me into His arms and comforted me, making me feel very special, caressing and comforting. After a very powerful experience together, which I am still processing, Master began to present me with pieces from a brown box. They were brand new leathers!
Master must have put a lot of thought into designing these leathers, and they really are beautiful. For as long as I live, I will take pride and honor in wearing them.
This also means I will be doing something I have never done on this blog before, I will be posting a picture of myself! (My face, for privacy reasons, will be blocked out, though, sorry guys) He even incorporated His colors into the leathers in unique ways. The thought that must have gone into making and designing these leathers for me is an honor. Any time Master takes His time and really thinks about something like this for me is an honor. I really do love them!

 Master's colors are sky blue, silver (or smoke gray), and gold accents (because of His legacy). The lacing for the corset style top is in His blue with the silver grommets. The cuffs, which I had been given before, have a thick silver stripe on them with silver hardware. The belt, which is not shown in these pics, is sky blue with gold hardware. There is also a gold lock and key handing from the buckle. The cover was designed to look like the normal head coverings I wear in vanilla day to day things, a bandana style cover. The pants are black leather, and the boots, which a friend had given me and Master has permitted to be paired with the leathers, are black platforms that reach my knee, with silver grommets. I may try to find sky blue laces for the boots.
The whip you can see over my shoulder is Master's Valentine's present this year, a custom flogger in His colors with a silver handle. When He used it yesterday, He said He loves the balance and the feel of it.
Of course, my collar is also silver in color, since it is steel.

I love the way it felt when I put the leathers on for the first time. It has been years since the last time I was actually in leathers, and these felt different. The fact that every piece was thought out by Master, designed with what He thought would look best on me, really added to the experience of it all.
The last set I wore looked identical to my Mistress at the time's leathers. She took no time or care to think of what would look best on my body type. Master took the opposite approach and figured out the style that would look best on me, personally, and helped the leather worker design them from there. That personal touch helped tremendously. They fit like a second skin.
I swear, standing there in the leathers sent me into a state of head space that was unlike any I have ever been in before. And, in the full leathers, I can still kneel comfortably and do all the slavely things I am supposed to do.
Right after giving me the leathers, Master helped me put a new corset on as well, lacing it semi tightly. His eyes popped out of His head when He saw me in the corset for the first time. It felt wonderful to seeing His reaction. He let me grab onto the suspension cuffs and tried out all of His whips.
He, somehow, knew exactly how much force to use with the cat 'o' nine. Everything was used, the cat 'o' nine, the brown suede flogger a friend had given us, the horse hair whip, the black leather flogger I had made years ago, the fur flogger (one of my favorites), one I had made out of rope, and the custom flogger.
The whips sent me to sub space, my second visit in an many hours. It was all around an amazing day, filled with amazing experiences and wonderful things. I even was able to take a nap after all of it, curled up at Master's feet, in the living room, while He was watching TV and surfing the internet.
I am still processing what happened before the leathers were given, before being whipped to space. If I do blog about it, it may be a few days before I fully grasp what happened, what it means, and what the result was.
The bond between Master and I was strengthened yesterday, no doubt about that, it is even stronger now than ever. And the day ended in the sweetest way possible, with me sleeping in Master's embrace, curled into Him. I love those little moments like that.

Something I have always wanted to do

When I was first being trained to be a slave, I learned formal dinner service. I have never put this to use. So, I am hatching a plan.
I would love it if I can do a formal dinner service for Master. I may do it next time He is home.
I think I am going to set the dinner table properly, serve Him dinner properly, submissively. I think I need to read a little to refresh my memory on how to do the formal service.

So you want to be a slave?

So, you have met a man you think is your perfect Master, you have strapped a collar around your own throat, you have told him that he is your Master and you are his slave. What now?
That is exactly the way many young, new slaves find themselves under collar lately, and they have no education as to what being a slave really means, what it takes to be a slave, or even how to choose a Master. You say you are a slave, but are you really? Do you know what it means? Being a slave is not as easy as it seems. Those of us who are natural slaves do not enter into this kind of relationship easily.
Are you ready to give up your family and friends if your Master does not agree with them? Are you ready to do whatever it takes to be sure your Master is happy, even if it costs you your happiness? Are you ready to say no to things because they do not fit in with your Master's desires or demands?
Being a slave means surrendering your freedom to another person. It means your life is not your own any longer, but it is His. Do you have the trust in Him to know what is best? To make decisions for you? Are you ready to obey His decisions even if they are against what you would have decided?
Are you really ready to have someone decide when you go to bed, when you wake up, what you eat, how much you eat, when you eat? What about how you dress, if you get a piercing, a tattoo, or even cut your hair? Can you tell your parents you can't go to a family dinner when He does not want to?
Can you obey the rules He sets up for you without question, even if you do not understand why? Can you handle a rule being set up without an explanation?
Being a slave is not a ticket to easy street. It does not mean you are able to stay home, not have to work, and just be spoiled, pampered, and taken care of. If you are fortunate enough to have a Master who allows you to stay home, you will be expected to keep the house, to cook, clean up after Him and yourself. Your life will not just be bon-bons, massages, and facials. Your days will be structured, you will be expected to pull your own weight in some way. You will be expected to complete tasks by a specific time or face the consequences.
Those consequences can be anything, as is His right as your Master. Are you ready to face those consequences? Can you answer to Him for your actions? Take responsibility for your choices?
Can you allow someone else to have control over when and if you have sex? And when He decides to have sex, are you able to accept that you may not be permitted to orgasm? Can you accept the fact that you may not be permitted to masturbate, either? You say you are a slave, but can you live your life the way I have described? Without questioning Him at all?
You want to be a slave? Good luck if you don't like the way this entry sounds.
When you have a Master who cares for you, though, it is easier and natural, and one of the most rewarding relationships you will ever experience. But, if you are not ready for all it entails, it is tough and can be very trying.

Limitless slaves

Every so often this debate rears its ugly head on Fet, causing people to get all bent out of shape and question the mental health of those of us who do have no limits. The very same people who, with one breath say there is no one right way to live 24/7 TPE turn around and say there is no such thing as a limitless slave and that EVERY slave has limits.
Two can play the "you are wrong" game. I say those slaves who feel the need to put ANY limits on their Master do not have the trust needed to be in a 24/7 TPE M/s relationship. They have no idea what the term implied control means.
I am truly a no limit slave. I do not feel the need to place any limits on Master. I feel I can trust Him enough to not have to state that I will not do anything illegal, or that He will not kill me.
If a slave really loves and trusts her Master, why should she feel the need to insult Him by telling Him not to kill her or not to have her do anything illegal?
Why feel the need to put that limit on your Master? Has He proven to you in the past that He will do something to really harm you? Has He given an indication that He will ask you to do something that is illegal in the past? If you can not trust Him with your life, why the hell is He your Master? There are so many activities that this lifestyle involves that can be so dangerous without perfect trust and perfect faith. If you have this prefect trust and perfect faith, you don't need to put limits or restrictions on your Master, you should be able to trust that He will not do anything to harm you.
It is possible to be a no limit slave, if you have found a Master you can trust with your life, and not just by saying the words, but one you really and honestly can love and trust. If you feel the need to place limits on your Master where the law and your life are concerned, maybe you should reevaluate your choice of Master.

Fakes, Frauds, and Wanna Be's

I am sick and tired of the title "slave" being used as a status symbol within the lifestyle. The newer generation of lifestyle people (not age wise, but experience wise) has no idea what it means to be a slave, or a Master, for that matter.
These fakes, frauds, and wanna bes think it is "cool" to say they are a slave. In doing so, they drag the reputations and the status of other slaves, those who know what it really means to be a slave, through the mud. Some of these people are submissives, at best, some merely bottoms. They ask questions that show they have no idea what they are talking about, and insult a slave who corrects them and shows them where they are mistaken.
A slave does NOT expect their Master or Mistress to treat them a specific way, they do NOT expect a specific behavior from their Master or Mistress, they are NOT bratty all the time, they do NOT tease or goad other Dominants until what they want is done. They do NOT put down their Master or Mistress in public forums.
A very good Master friend of mine, one of the very few Masters in my area who do not disgrace the title, said when we were discussing these local bottoms (I refuse to insult myself and my slave friends by calling these people anything but a bottom) "a slave doesn't expect anything from their Master except that they don't kill the slave or have them do anything illegal."
Part of their attitudes would be the fault of the local community. The community here does not foster education, it, instead, fosters a what have you done for me lately attitude. When a get together for education of slaves is planned, no one comes, no one participates, mainly because they say, oh you aren't teaching what *I* want to learn, so I don't have to go. Their notions about slavehood are all based on what *they* want and not what the community needs or what the title really means.
These attitudes are evident in some of the questions asked in "30 Days of Discovering Your Slavehood," a project in the local slave group, which was turned around and used to insult group members. "Do you expect physical punishments as part of your slavehood? Do you accept when your Master or Mistress refuses to issue them or do you demand them?" EXCUSE ME? Expect? Demand? This is what I answered, "When it comes to my slavehood and the way our dynamic is handled, I do not expect things. If Master does decide it fits His agenda for the day to issue a physical punishment, I will accept it with grace and dignity, but I do not expect these things. If I want a physical pain session, I will make the request, but I will not demand of Him. I will accept His decision and His judgement. A slave does not expect her Master to do things in her time, but His. She does not demand things of her Master. That is not being a slave, that is topping from the bottom." This, of course, got picked apart and torn to shreds by the so-called slaves in the group because they are not educated in what being a slave means.
If you are going to claim slavehood, learn what it means, ask other slaves what it means, get involved and actually go to educational get togethers. I have planned many of these get togethers for our community and not a single one had anyone attend. Learn, read, grow, don't think you know everything. Hell, even after 17 years in this lifestyle, I am still learning things.

Yay!!!

I know I'm refusing to let most people mention it, it's a defense mechanism, just in case , but I can't hold it in any longer. Master should be home for my birthday weekend this year!!! I am so excited despite my warnings to myself, I can't help it. After all these years, the Man still gives me butterflies and sends zings right through me.
One look from Him and I go ka-thunk still. I can't wait until next weekend when He is home again.